Month: April 2024

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Post author By Asha Bhakta
Post date April 11, 2024

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JUNE 2024

The mood-boosting health benefits of kindness

Some days get the best of us. Traffic is awful. A friend or family member cancels their visit. You spill coffee in the breakroom. Your toilet backs up. It can be hard to keep smiling when it seems like everything’s working against you.

Fortunately, there’s a way to boost your mood at any time that’s completely within your control. It’s as simple as boosting someone else’s mood first.

And remember, your Costco benefits are always there for you to help you through a hard time or build your social connectedness.

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Being nice is a win-win

Many people have stories about how being nice to someone made them feel good. Now, science is beginning to help understand why.

Using brain imaging, researchers found that receiving money increases activity in the brain’s reward system, the same area of the brain that releases feel-good chemicals when stimulated by food or a good nap.¹ But that’s not all. Donating to a charity also had the same effect. In other words, both giving and receiving kindness can produce a natural high.

But you don’t have to spend money to reap the benefits of being nice. According to a study in The Journal of Social Psychology, people aged 18 to 60 who carried out random acts of kindness every day for 10 days reported higher life satisfaction than those who didn’t.² Spreading good vibes can really pay off.

Kindness doesn’t have to cost a thing

These everyday acts can leave a big impact on a fellow human being. Try one out to see how it feels. And if you need help nurturing your relationships, access free, personalized virtual mental health programs through programs such as AbleTo.*

Tell someone they’re doing a great job

Noticing the work someone is putting in and saying thank you can make a huge difference in their day. Try things such as leaving a thank you note for your mail carrier, writing a Yelp review about a great waiter, or giving a fist bump to a helpful coworker.

Let someone else go first

Slowing down often creates opportunities to be kind. Maybe it’s letting a car merge in front of you in traffic. Or letting a person with fewer items at the grocery store check out before you. There are countless ways being a little patient can make all the difference to someone else.

Give something other than money

What do you own that you can give away? Consider carrying items like granola bars or new socks that you can give to unhoused folks. Or pack up used amenities that are still in good condition, like towels and sheets. Many animal shelters accept old linens to keep their animals warm.

Offer up your time

Everyone needs a break sometimes. If you know someone with kids or pets, offering to babysit or pet sit for free can be a huge help. Weed a busy neighbor’s garden. Help a friend clean out their closet. Or volunteer for a cause you believe in, such as Costco’s Reading Buddies program, where you help a young reader once a week at a school in your community. If interested, talk to your manager for more information.

Pay someone a compliment

It’s human nature to think that when someone is looking at you, they’re judging you. Flip this perception on its head. The next time you’re loving a coworker’s style, let them know.

Do someone else’s chores

Whether it’s a roommate, family member, or friend, everyone gets overwhelmed. Sometimes just doing something small, like the dishes when it’s not your turn, can help someone else catch their breath.

Get in touch

Lots of people touch our lives without ever really knowing their impact. If there’s an old teacher, coach, or manager that changed your life, send them a message of gratitude. It could be exactly what they need that day.

Kindness breeds kindness

At the end of the day, you don’t need a lot of money or a lot of time to show kindness. Sometimes, it can be as simple as making eye contact, saying hi, or just offering a smile.

If someone doesn’t wave back or express gratitude, that’s ok. Move on to the next opportunity. Kindness has a ripple effect. If you keep expressing it, it will keep coming back to you.

Check out the resources below to get the personal support you need to create stronger and healthier connections.

*Not available in Puerto Rico.

¹Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences. Human fronto-mesolimbic networks guide decisions about charitable donation.
²The Journal of Social Psychology. Acts of kindness and acts of novelty affect life satisfaction.

Source:
AbleTo. 7 easy ways to make someone’s day (including your own)

Tags emotional-well-being, Relationships

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Post author By Asha Bhakta
Post date April 11, 2024

GET HELP

JUNE 2024

A caregiver’s guide to setting healthy boundaries

What’s the most important job for a caregiver? It’s probably not what you think. When you take on the responsibilities of caring for another person, be it a grandparent, an aging parent, a sick friend or relative, or an older disabled child, self-care must come first. To use a familiar metaphor, you need to put on your oxygen mask before helping others.

If you are or will be a caregiver, look to your Costco benefits to support you in this crucial role. And if you have a caregiver in your life, be sure to acknowledge the hard work they do and reach out to offer help when you can.

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Why self-care is important

The rewards of caregiving are many. It can feel good to give back to someone who has cared for you. Or give you sense of satisfaction and pride knowing your loved one is well cared for. But caregiving can also put a strain on your mind and body.

The levels of stress hormones in caregivers are 23% higher in comparison to non-caregivers. 40 – 70% of caregivers experience symptoms of depression. 14% use alcohol to cope. And in one survey, over 30% of unpaid caregivers had considered suicide.

These statistics show that it’s normal for caregivers to feel these difficult emotions. And that it’s ok to feel this way. Admitting that you’re struggling takes courage. It’s the first step in preserving and/or recovering your well-being.

How to build a boundary

You can only give quality care if you know your own needs and limitations. When these needs are unmet or demands are excessive, you might feel guilty or distressed—neither of which can help your situation. Creating boundaries is a way to lay the foundation for positive self-care habits.

But how do you go about creating healthy boundaries? Follow these steps.

Accept your emotions, good and bad.

When negative feelings show up, you may want to hide them. But these emotions have important underlying messages.

Anger and frustration notify you of unfair or unsustainable conditions, such as having to give care late into the night when you have to work the next day. Fear arises from uncomfortable events colliding with limited resources, such as taking on medical duties when you aren’t a trained medial professional. Resentment stems from feeling unappreciated or trapped, such as being unable to attend important social events due to your caregiving duties. Guilt displays our genuine wish to treat others well, such as wanting to be more patient with your loved one but feeling time pressure.

Recognizing what these emotions mean can help you identify potential boundaries.

Set boundaries according to your goals.

What will help you feel better in daily life? Make a list of healthy habits or a tangible goal to work toward. Then set up and communicate your boundary to keep yourself on track. Slowly but surely, you’ll be able to construct a more sustainable lifestyle. Here are some examples to get you started.

Goal:
Exercise 2 – 3 times per week

Boundary:
“I will be going on a walk after your morning routine on days I feel up to it. I wanted to let you know that’s on my schedule, and you’re welcome to join me whenever.”

Goal:
Sleep 8 hours a night

Boundary:
“Let’s have all your nighttime needs met by 9 p. m., so I have an hour to wind down before sleep.”

Goal:
Engage in activities that you enjoy

Boundary:
“I need some time to recharge. Let’s find a window of a couple hours in the next two days when you won’t need my help, or when someone else can take over.”

Reach out to others.

Friends, family members, physicians, therapists, community groups and online support networks may not be in your shoes, but they have the resources and are willing to listen and work with you through tough situations. They can provide you a break and a safe space to vent. Asking someone else for help is a great gift and can strengthen both your confidence and the connection between you.

Supportiv can quickly connect you online with other caregivers who understand. So, no matter what you’re dealing with, you won’t feel so alone. This totally anonymous service is free to Costco employees.

It’s ok to politely say no.

When asked if you can do an extra assignment or take on another duty, think about whether you can handle it. If you hesitate for a second, then you should not be picking up new tasks. Saying no to someone is not rude or mean. It demonstrates that you know your limits.

Build community outside of your caregiving relationship.

Understand that you need a wide circle of support. Build a community that’s not just family, but also people from different parts of your life, such as coworkers, neighbors, and friends old and new. Expose yourself to people who make you laugh and lift you up. There’s no room for guilt when you fill the room with people who support you.

Boundaries are meant to protect you and the person you care for, to preserve your caregiving relationship, and to create a more functional partnership. By showing the courage to value your own needs, you enhance the quality of care you provide.

It’s not always easy to ask for help. But taking care of you is the only way you can take care of others. Look to the resources below for help.

Sources:
Supportiv. The impact of caregiving on your physical and mental health.
Supportiv. Maintaining boundaries as a caregiver: go from guilt to glow.

Tags Behavioral health, emotional-well-being, Relationships, Stress

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Post author By Asha Bhakta
Post date April 11, 2024

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JUNE 2024

Teens, tweens and social media: the good, the bad and how to make the best of it

Social media has become a part of daily life for most Americans. It’s the same for teens and tweens. Up to 95% report using a social media platform, with almost a third saying they use social media “almost constantly”.

While we’ve all read about cyberbullies and other online threats, social media can also give teens a sense of community, acceptance and belonging. This begs the question: Is social media good or bad for our teens?

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The good parts

Connection

In a 2018 Pew survey, 81% of teens said that social media helped them stay connected to their friends. 69% felt it allowed them to interact with a more diverse group of people. 68% said they found people online who would support them through tough times.

Self-expression and personal growth

Social media can help teens express themselves and teach them new skills. It exposes them to more perspectives and opinions. It makes sharing information easier. And it can provide teens with support from other people with whom they have hobbies or experiences in common.

Support for mental health

Anxious teens may find connecting online easier than in-person meetings, alleviating their loneliness. Teens who belong to groups that often get marginalized may find their tribe using social media. Social media that’s humorous or distracting can help a stressed teen cope with a challenging day.

Relationship-building

Some young people use social media to “build their brand” for social, school or business ventures. From reselling clothing or crafts on sites such as Depop or Etsy, to building a following for passion projects, such as car restoration, a social media presence can be a key tool for success.

The bad parts

Highly addictive

Because social media is designed to keep users coming back for more, it can be very addictive to the teenage brain. Adolescence is a period of significant brain development, making teenagers especially vulnerable to the built-in immediate gratification of shares, “likes,” comments and followers — especially since social media is always “on”.

In addition, emerging research suggests that short-form videos, such as those on TikTok and Instagram, are shortening attention spans. This can increase stress levels and interfere with school performance.

Sleep deprivation

According to the Centers for Disease Control, more than 70% of high schoolers don’t get enough sleep. Staying up late scrolling social media can contribute. Adolescents who don’t get enough sleep have a higher risk of obesity, diabetes, injuries, poor mental health and problems with attention and behavior.

Negative self-image and poor mental health

Social media is full of carefully crafted and filtered profiles. The perfect look and life of their favorite influencer can encourage teens and tweens to have unrealistic expectations. This can lead to body image concerns, eating disorders and poor self-esteem.

Cyberbullying can be even more severe than in-person bullying. Abusive messages or images can be sent anonymously, shielding perpetrators from consequences. Plus, by posting pictures of themselves, teens may unwillingly open themselves up to vicious comments and unwanted shares. Teens may find it hard to escape this form of bullying since rumors can spread farther, faster and be around for a long time.

In addition, the pressure to stay on top of the latest trends and opportunities can increase stress associated with FOMO (fear of missing out). Research has found that teens who spend more than three hours a day on social media face double the risk of experiencing symptoms of depression and anxiety.

If your teen is struggling with any of these issues, Telemynd’s* expert therapists and psychiatrists offer help for sleep issues, cyberbullying, poor body image, ADHD, depression and anxiety.

Oversharing and regret

With the teenage brain, it’s common to make a choice before thinking it through. Teens might post something when they’re angry or upset and regret it later. Or share things that they’re not supposed to. This can be embarrassing and bring unwanted attention far beyond their close friend group.

5 ways to keep your teen in the good zone

So how can you try to ensure that your teen stays safe and has more positive experiences on social media? These 5 simple tips can help.

Talk about it

Check in with your teen about how social media’s working for them right now. Let them share their feelings about the time they spend on Instagram or Snapchat. Ask them what they find interesting and, if possible, suggest activities they could do to support that interest. If you’re concerned that your teens can’t control their social media use, talk about your concerns in a nonjudgmental way. Give your teens a chance to share their perspective on what they think could improve their experience.

Set a good example

It’s easy to jump on your phone to catch up on things when you get home from work. But remember, your behaviors are a model for your kids. When they’re talking to you, put your phone down. Make it a rule that everyone turns their phone off at mealtime. Be thoughtful about what you share on your own social media accounts and don’t post when you’re angry or upset. Show your kids that they control their social media use, it doesn’t control them.

Avoid toxicity

Discourage your teens from friending just anyone or engaging with people whose behavior is hurtful, demeaning or toxic. Rather than telling them who to connect with and who to avoid, share your own experiences with friends, both good and bad, to show that you can relate. Do your best to be non-judgmental and empathetic. And let your teens know they can always talk to you if they are worried about social media interactions that can be harmful to themselves or others.

Urge them to stay grounded

If your teens are seeing things on social media that make them feel like they don’t measure up, point out that not everything they see is real. The opposite is true, too — if they’re racking up likes for their social media persona, remind them that their real self is great, too. Either way, champion the idea of cultivating some screen-free time so they can stay in touch with who they are in real life.

Set boundaries

Remember, you know your kid best. If social media seems to make them feel worse, not better, about themselves, or you’re concerned about the amount of time they spend online, setting limits as a family could help. RethinkCare’s podcast Screen time, video games and social media can give you some ideas.

If you or your tween or teen could benefit from some extra support navigating social media, ask for help. Start by learning more about the resources below.

Sources:
U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Social media and youth mental health.
Mayo Clinic. Teens and social media: what’s the impact?
Centers for Disease Control. Sleep and health.

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Tags Behavioral health, emotional-well-being, Parenting, Relationships, Stress

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Post author By Asha Bhakta
Post date April 11, 2024

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JUNE 2024

Self-care tips for dads

Fatherhood brings joy, pride—and sometimes, pressure. Many dads feel they have to do everything well, including excelling at work, being a role model to their kids, providing a safe home, ensuring financial security for their family and staying strong, both physically and mentally.

When there’s so much focus on the family, it’s easy for dads to leave out caring for themselves. But self-care benefits everyone. Taking care of your own needs first allows you to be more present, loving, and supportive of others.

If you want to be the best dad, grandpa, uncle, stepdad or big brother you can be, self-care is essential. And that goes beyond basic healthy habits, like eating well, exercising, getting enough sleep and staying hydrated. Get started with the tips below. Your Costco benefits can also support your efforts with therapy, coaching, digital tools and more.

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6 ways dads can practice self-care

Listen to music.

Music can raise your spirits, as it triggers the release of dopamine, the feel-good hormone. Songs from your youth can do even more. According to Psychology Today, feelings of nostalgia can offer relief from present stress and prevent loneliness. It’s also a good way to connect with your kids — they may roll their eyes at “dad’s music”, but it can become something special between the two of you. Play some Springsteen, Green Day, 90s hip hop or listen to “Thriller” again if it makes you smile.

Have a good laugh.

Laughter cools down your stress response and aids in muscle relaxation. It truly is the “best medicine.” Check out dad jokes on YouTube, rewatch your favorite over-the-top comedy, scroll through SNL sketches. For device-free laughs, talk to a funny friend or try laughter yoga (yes, this really is a thing).

Stay connected.

When you know there are people who support you no matter what you’re going through, it can improve your outlook on your life. Hanging with friends, being part of a dad’s group, or joining a peer-to-peer online support group through Supportiv can relieve stress and give you a sense of belonging and acceptance.

Go outside.

Spending time in the sunshine offers a free hit of serotonin to help improve your mood and boost feelings of happiness and well-being. Take a walk, jump on your bike, or settle down on a comfortable park bench for some mindless people watching. Aim for at least 120 minutes per week.

Pamper yourself.

Give yourself permission to take care of your appearance. Get a haircut if you’d like. Think about getting a pedicure, especially if you’re on your feet all day. Experiment with beard oil. These things can boost your mood and your confidence.

Stretch.

Not only does stretching improve your mobility and flexibility, but it can also increase your body’s level of serotonin, the hormone that reduces stress and stabilizes your mood. Add 5 – 10 minutes of stretching throughout your day for a quick pick-me-up.

Self-care isn’t selfish. By taking care of yourself, you’ll be an even better dad than you already are. Your Costco benefits are here to help.

Sources:
Healthy Dad Hacks. Self-care for dads: what it is, why needed, 14 ideas.
Psychology Today. The psychological effects of nostalgic music.
Mayo Clinic. Stress relief from laughter? It’s no joke.

Tags Behavioral health, Stress

Recipes

Healthy recipe

Post author By Asha Bhakta
Post date April 11, 2024

HEALTHY RECIPE

JUNE 2024

Chicken Cobb salad sandwich

Here’s an interesting variation on a summer staple: a classic Cobb salad, but between two slices of bread. It’s colorful, super satisfying, and stacked with all the expected ingredients — chicken, hard-boiled egg, bacon, lettuce, tomato, and a hint of blue cheese. Pack one for a healthy lunch in your breakroom or serve up a platter at your next outdoor gathering.

Ingredients: 8

Prep Time: 10 min | Total Time: 10 min

Serves: 1

Ingredients:

2 slices reduced-calorie wheat bread

¼ cup shredded romaine lettuce

½ plum tomato, sliced

2 ounces ready-cooked seasoned chicken breast, thinly sliced

½ tablespoon blue cheese salad dressing

¼ medium avocado, sliced

½ large hardboiled egg, sliced

1 piece of crisp cooked bacon

Directions:

Step 1

Toast the bread.

Step 2

Top one slice of bread with ingredients in this order: lettuce, tomato, chicken, dressing, avocado, egg and bacon.

Step 3

Place other slice of bread on top.

Nutrition

Source: WeightWatchers

With the WeightWatchers program and app, you can lose weight and eat healthier. Costco employees can join WeightWatchers for as low as $14 per month, and spouses/domestic partners and dependents can join for as low as $19.50 each per month. Participants must be age 18 or older to join. Sign up at WW.com/Costco or call 866-204-2885.