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OCTOBER 2025

5 tips on how to say “no”

Have you ever done something for a friend — mostly because you didn’t want to let them down? Or said yes to a partner when you really wanted to say no? It’s not always easy to set boundaries.  Especially if you’re someone who’s used to helping others or putting their needs first. But what if we told you that healthy boundaries help you be a better friend or partner?

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“No” can be hard to say — and hard to hear

Cultural norms, generational differences and family dynamics often teach us that saying no is selfish or disrespectful. When your life or work centers around service to others, it may be even more challenging to set boundaries without guilt. And if you struggle with low self-esteem, you might feel like you don’t deserve to say no. But each no is a yes to your priorities and well-being.

Learn how to set healthy boundaries with AbleTo. They offer multiple 8-week, no-cost programs that can help you build confidence and teach you how to handle conflict.

Not ready to start a program just yet? Or maybe you’re worried about conflict? AbleTo made a guide on working through conflict that comes from setting boundaries. And how to recognize what healthy boundaries look like in yourself and others. Here are 5 self-reminders to help you stick to your boundaries:

• It’s okay for me to want or need something.
• Standing up for myself doesn’t make me a bad person.
• My feelings aren’t less valid than theirs.
• If they get mad, that doesn’t mean I should’ve said yes.
• It’s okay for them to say no, too.

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