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Audio: Feeling worried? Try grounding

Worrying can bring your day to a halt. When you’re focused on past experiences or anxiety about the future, it can be hard to concentrate and think clearly. And when that happens, you can miss what’s going on in the here and now.

Grounding can help anyone, at any age. This mindfulness technique works to redirect your thoughts back to the present with the help of your five senses. Grounding is simple, powerful and only takes a few minutes. And it’s as easy as counting down 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.

Listen below to get started. Grounding is a great tool to have anytime, but especially as we enter the holiday hustle.

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Source: Resources For Living®. Mental health fitness: Grounding technique.

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Dental health and mental health

Did you know that when you brush your teeth, you’re also supporting your mental health?

“People are often surprised that their mental health is connected with their oral health, and their oral health, in turn, with their mental health,” says Cleveland Clinic Psychologist Susan Albers. “But they’re really interconnected.”

A dental checkup can be an opportunity for a mental health tune-up. That makes seeing your dentist twice a year even more important. Make sure to get your visits in before the end of the year. Your Costco dental plans cover preventive care at 100% when you see an in-network provider.

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How dental health affects mental health (and vice versa)

In a 2015 American Dental Association study, 1 in 5 adults reported experiencing anxiety because of the condition of their mouth and teeth. This is especially significant for young adults, whose oral health concerns led 22% of them to reduce participation in social activities.

“When your oral health is suffering, it can decrease your quality of life,” explains Dr. Albers. “If you feel embarrassed about the health of your teeth, it can trigger social anxiety. You may withdraw. Or it may hurt your self-esteem. This can lead to an increase in some of your mental health symptoms.”

The opposite is also true — your mental health can affect your dental health. The health of your teeth can give clues to your stress level, your anxiety, your mood and the presence of chronic eating problems.

For example, worn enamel can be a big red flag that you’re experiencing high levels of anxiety or stress. Stress can also increase the level of cortisol in your body, weakening your immune system and making you more susceptible to canker sores, gingivitis and gum disease. In addition, if you’re struggling with depression, you may not have the motivation or energy for dental care.

Managing your dental and mental health

Because your mental health and dental health are interconnected, things you do for one also benefit the other. These small changes in your day-to-day life can have a lasting impact.

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Eat a healthy diet

Eating a wide variety of nutritious foods, like veggies, fruit and lean proteins, boosts your mood and protects your teeth and gums.

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Watch out for dry mouth

Certain antidepressants, anti-anxiety medications and mood stabilizers can reduce the saliva in your mouth and cause dry mouth. Since saliva washes away cavity-causing bacteria and germs, this could be a concern. If you think you might have dry mouth from your medication, talk with your dentist, doctor and therapist to make sure it’s not hurting your teeth.

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Practice stress-reduction techniques

Deep breathing, meditation or using an app to help you relax are some of the techniques you can try to reduce stress and anxiety. If you notice you have worn enamel, or that you clench or grind your teeth at night, you may want to try wearing a mouth guard when you sleep. You can get a custom-fitted mouth guard from your dentist, or, for a shorter-term solution, you can look for an over-the-counter option.

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See your dentist

Dentists aren’t just there to polish up your pearly whites. They can also detect when other things are going on in your life. Dr. Albers notes that dentists are often the first professionals to identify and diagnose a mental health issue. And that many referrals to counselors and therapists come from dentists.

“Dentists are very willing to help,” says Dr. Albers. “They’ve seen signs and symptoms of conditions before. And a dentist and therapist working together can help you work through your mental health issues and protect your oral and overall health.”

Sources:
Cleveland Clinic. The link between dental health and mental health: what you need to know.
American Dental Association. Oral health and well-being in the United States.

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Video: Living with chronic pain

Do you live with chronic pain? Whether it’s from an old injury, a surgery or an undiagnosed condition, chronic pain can affect more than your physical well-being. It can prevent you from doing the things you love — from playing with your kids to taking a road trip. Chronic pain can be isolating and lead to anxiety and depression. It can make you feel helpless and like you have no control over your life.

If you or someone close to you is struggling with chronic pain, this video can provide you with information on how to better manage it — and enjoy your life again.

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Teach your child self-compassion by learning it yourself

Remember the first time your child said “mama” or “papa?” It was a thrilling moment for you. You helped by patiently repeating the word and pointing to yourself. Your child did their part by watching, listening intently and trying to mimic you.

In the first years of life, our children learn everything from language to how to catch a ball by watching and listening to us. As the years go by, they also learn from teachers, other kids, books, TV and social media. But when it comes to self-compassion, your child is taking almost all of their cues from you. Here’s how to help them take away the right lessons.

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What is self-compassion?

Whether it’s on the playground, at school, on the job or in our relationships, when we experience a setback, it’s common to respond in one of two ways. Either we become defensive and blame others, or we blame ourselves. Neither response is especially helpful.

Blaming others may lessen the sting of failure, but it comes at the expense of learning. Blaming ourselves, on the other hand, may feel deserved in the moment, but it can lead to an inaccurately gloomy view of our potential, which can undermine personal development.

What if instead we treated ourselves as we would a friend in a similar situation? More likely than not, we’d be kind, understanding and encouraging. Directing that type of response internally, toward ourselves, is known as self-compassion, and it’s been the focus of a good deal of research in recent years. Psychologists are discovering that self-compassion is useful in our personal growth and well-being.

Tips for teaching self-compassion

Children are masters of observation. They’ll pick up on — and repeat — both your words and your behavior. To that end, if you want your child to develop self-compassion, start modeling self-compassion, rather than self-criticism. Here’s how:

Acknowledge your feelings

It’s okay to not be okay! If you explain the context to your child — in an age-appropriate way — you show them how to discuss their feelings in a healthy way. Start by acknowledging they are experiencing an emotion. This simple act of acknowledgment, which may be as effortless as saying, “I can see that this upset you” can go a long way.

Give thanks

Positivity is a skill, and one way to build it up is through gratitude. Noting what you’re grateful for — even that first cup of coffee in the morning — nudges your brain to look for good things in other parts of your day. Sharing these observations aloud can teach your child to do the same.

Practice self-care

Self-care shouldn’t be a reward you can only earn once you finish all your to-dos. If you try to bring it to the top of the list, your child will learn to care for themselves, too. Ask yourself: What makes you feel like the best version of yourself? Perhaps it’s taking a few minutes for yourself each day to read a book or spend time outdoors. Do your best to prioritize those things.

Forgive yourself

Self-compassion is key to self-acceptance, so show your child how it’s done! Focus on progress over perfection. When things go awry — as they always do — point out how you’re doing the best you can and moving forward, instead of dwelling on what didn’t go according to plan.

Learn something new

When you take time to try out new experiences and learn new skills, you’re teaching your child the value of curiosity and a love of learning — not to mention how to be resilient. (You won’t succeed at everything, and that’s okay!) Make a list of new things you’d like to try, then have at it.

Build emotional awareness

Emotions are often held in the body. That’s why you get butterflies when you’re excited or sweaty palms before a meeting. Becoming aware of when and how your emotions show up can help you better understand them. Share these insights with your child, and you can work on identifying emotions together.

Troubleshoot

No one expects you to be positive all the time. (And thank goodness, because that sounds exhausting.) If you’re having a bad day, use it as a teaching moment to share your feelings with your child. Your child can learn by watching you get through it.

And as helpful as techniques like deep breathing and meditation can be, sometimes you need to address the stressor itself. Once you pinpoint the source of your chronic stress, think about what’s within your control to change. A trusted friend or therapist can help.

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Changing your mindset may be a challenge. (It’s so much easier to be hard on yourself!) But when you try to be self-compassionate, your child is more likely to be kind to themselves, as well.

Source: The Greater Good Science Center. Three simple ways for kids to grow their self compassion.

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Get expert parenting support

Raising a child is a rewarding, exhausting, joyous and, often, challenging experience. And in recent years, the challenges have become particularly difficult. From pandemic-related educational setbacks and social isolation, to bullying on social media, kids today are dealing with stressors their parents could have never imagined. In today’s world, social media can be fun for learning and games but, it’s always “on”. Not only does it open up risk for inappropriate content being shared, it opens your kids up for sharing information with strangers.

Whether your child is anxious about returning to school, struggling with a learning disability or dealing with a serious mental health condition, there’s good news. You don’t have to face these challenges alone. As a Costco employee, you can access expert care, resources and information — much of it at no cost to you — through your Costco benefits.

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Even when life is going smoothly, make sure you’re familiar with the benefits Costco provides for your family’s emotional well-being. Know where to turn when challenges arise and access a wide array of webinars, videos and articles designed to help you better manage the many challenges of parenting.

Check out these resources for parents and kids

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Resources For Living® (RFL®)*, your enhanced Employee Assistance Program (EAP), is the place to start when you or your child needs mental health support or help with everyday challenges. RFL offers you and the members of your household free, 24/7 access to mental health resources, for you, the members of your household and your dependent children up to age 26 living away from home.

Through RFL, you can also access Talkspace, confidential, on-demand chat therapy with a licensed therapist. Counseling sessions can be by phone, video or on-demand chat. You decide what works best for you. After your sixth no-cost session, you can keep using Talkspace under your medical plan, with a copay.

RFL also gives you access to:

  • Interactive self-care programs
  • A library of informative articles, podcasts and webinars
  • Help finding in-network providers who are accepting new patients
  • Referrals to community resources
  • Many work-life support services, such as help finding child care or legal services


Telemynd offers virtual access to therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists specializing in hundreds of conditions. They can evaluate, diagnose and provide therapy or psychiatric treatment for kids, teens and adults. Telemynd offers:

• Talk therapy
• Couples counseling
• Family therapy
• Psychiatry and medication management

Telemynd.com/costco | 877-403-9348 | Age 5+ | Copays apply


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RethinkCare gives you access to virtual consultations with parenting experts. It also includes online training courses to help you learn how to help your child set healthy boundaries, be optimistic, practice self-compassion and self-advocacy, set goals and solve problems, become more resilient, and more.

For more support raising happy, healthy kids:

  • Tune in to RethinkCare’s Behaviorally Speaking podcast for tips from parenting experts on topics like Emotional Intelligence, Resiliency and Growth Mindset, and Stress Management for kids and teens.
  • Help set your child up for success in the new year school by checking out this webinar about Helping Kids Strengthen their Social Skills, available on-demand to fit your busy schedule.
  • New! Your RethinkCare benefit now offers courses that focus on boosting your child’s executive functioning skills, including attention, focus, organization, time management and impulse control. These skills are critical to helping children grow up to be successful in school, work and relationships, improve their ability to solve problems, get along with others, make safe and healthy decisions, and more.  

This year, as your child returns to the classroom, remember that if challenges arise, your Costco benefits are there to support you. All you have to do is use them.

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Video: Don’t feed your feelings: A guide to emotional eating

Do you load up on carbs, sugar or junk food when you’re feeling stressed? Is chocolate chip ice cream your go-to treatment for anxiety? Here’s your opportunity to take a closer look at how uncomfortable emotions can drive your eating habits. Recorded on May 11, 2023, this thought-provoking webinar is hosted by Allison Grupski, PhD, WW VP of Behavior Change Strategies & Coaching, and Sophia Webb, WW coach.

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Video: The family impact of substance misuse

Addiction doesn’t just affect the person with a drug or alcohol problem. It’s called a family disease because it also impacts everyone who cares about the addicted family member. In this four-minute Resources For Living® (RFL®)* video, Daphne Parker, licensed professional counselor, discusses how to help an addicted family member. And she stresses the importance of taking care of yourself during this challenging journey.

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*Resources For Living is available to all employees and members of their household, including children up to age 26 living away from home.

Source: Resources For Living. The family impact of substance misuse.

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Video: Prescription medicine: Could you have a problem?

It’s a national story that leads the news nearly every night. Opioid addiction rates continue to rise. And opioid deaths, particularly from fentanyl, are increasing at an alarming rate. For many of us, opioid addiction is no longer something that happens to other people. It can happen to anyone. According to the NIH National Institute on Drug Abuse, 75% of people who began abusing opioids in the 2000s reported that their first opioid was a prescription drug.1

If you think that you or someone close to you might be in danger of slipping into prescription drug misuse, this video can provide you with some useful information.

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Source: Resources For Living. Prescription medicine: Could you have a problem?

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8 rules for more constructive conversations

The root word of communication is communion, which means to share intimate thoughts. It doesn’t always mean coming to an agreement. It means there’s a flow, a willingness to open up, to listen and be heard, to understand and be understood.

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1. Keep the gloves on.

Mutual respect is rule #1. If you don’t respect the person you’re talking to then you may want to avoid having a conversation at this time. All parties should enter the conversation with positive intent — to understand and be understood.

2. Think it through.

The most important conversation is the one you have with yourself. Take a moment to collect your thoughts and the points you want to make. Then, stay on track and in the moment. Avoid bringing up unrelated topics. Know what your anchor is and refer to it regularly.

3. Stick to the facts.

State what you know to be true. This doesn’t mean you have to be a historian, medical expert or political scientist. Your lived experiences are true for you. The same goes for the person you’re speaking with.

4. Aim for dialogue. Not monologue.

Ensure that other people have a chance to be heard. Avoid raising your voice and interrupting or talking over people, even if they’re using these tactics.

5. Listen. Listen. Listen.

Instead of solely trying to prove your point, listen with the intent of understanding what the other person is trying to say. What can you learn from this conversation? What light can they shed? Is there something you hadn’t previously thought of or considered? Listening makes people feel seen, heard and valued. This can greatly increase the odds that they’ll do the same for you.

6. Stay calm.

Emotionally charged conversations can be extremely stressful. This can make us only want to engage with people who already agree with us. If we do engage, we can sometimes be defensive, say things we later regret, or stop listening altogether and simply wait until we get a chance to speak. When we keep our emotions in check, we open up consideration for other points of view and expanded thinking. If you need to step away from the conversation to collect yourself, that’s okay, too. Remember, the loudest voices aren’t necessarily right.

7. Use appropriate language.

Tuck away the insults, stereotypes and triggering comments. (Review the previous step if necessary.)

8. Show genuine interest.

Use the tips below to help your conversation partner feel seen, valued and inspired to return the favor.

  • Put away distractions. Turn off the phone. Pull out your earbuds. Make eye contact.
  • Repeat words or short phrases back. This lets the person you’re talking to know you heard what they said. For example, “You said you think what happened is unfair. Okay, can you help me understand why?”
  • Respect personal experiences and emotions. Refrain from making dismissive comments like, “It’s not a big deal” or “You’re overreacting.” Instead, say, “I hadn’t thought of it like that. I understand now” or “I was wrong. Thank you for correcting me.”
  • Ask questions. Go beyond the obvious and dig a little deeper. Ask questions like, “Why do you feel this is the best option?” “What was considered when arriving at your point of view?” “Can you tell me more about how you feel?” or “Can you explain why you think that?” In response, try saying things like, “I feel _ because of _.”

After a hard conversation, take time to think about what you discussed. Journal your thoughts. Write down what you learned, what you wished you had said or what you could have said differently. Ask yourself what you learned about yourself and others.

This kind of mindful review can help you recognize your blind spots. Over time, you’ll become more comfortable approaching challenging conversations.

Remember, none of us is perfect. We may sometimes miss the mark in our attempt to gain understanding, forget to mention something or, upon later reflection, have a change of heart. It‘s okay to revisit conversations and even concede ground if need be. In the end, we may have to agree to disagree to avoid jeopardizing relationships with people in our lives.

Source: AbleTo. How to have difficult conversations.

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The emotional side of disaster

Hurricanes, earthquakes, train derailments, mass shootings, wildfires, you name it. Disasters lead the nightly news and leave a wake of destruction. But sometimes the emotional stress they cause lasts far longer and can result in greater harm than the more immediate financial and physical damages do.

If you’ve experienced a disaster and still feel the emotional impact, there are actions you can take to feel better. Understanding your responses to upsetting events can help you cope with your feelings, thoughts and behaviors, and help you on the path to recovery.

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After a disaster, your emotional well-being needs care

Remember that:

  • It’s normal to feel anxious about your own safety and that of your family and close friends.
  • Profound sadness, grief and anger are normal reactions to an abnormal event.
  • Acknowledging your feelings helps you recover.
  • Focusing on your strengths and abilities helps you heal.
  • Accepting help from community programs and resources is healthy.
  • Everyone has different needs and ways of coping. It’s common to want to strike back at people who have caused great pain.

Find ways to ease disaster-related stress

Here are some actions you can take:

  • Reach out to Resources For Living® (RFL®)* for in-the-moment and ongoing emotional support for personal issues, 24/7. Remember you have six free counseling sessions that can help you deal with post-disaster stress and other mental health concerns you may experience after a traumatic event in your community.
  • Talk with someone you trust about your feelings of anger, sorrow and other emotions — even though it may be difficult.
  • Don’t hold yourself responsible for the disastrous event or be frustrated if you feel you can’t help directly in the rescue work.
  • Take steps to promote your own physical and emotional healing by eating a healthy diet, getting plenty of sleep, exercising, relaxing and meditating.
  • Try to maintain a normal family and daily routine, and limit demanding responsibilities for yourself and your family.
  • If there are memorials, participate in them.
  • Turn to your support groups of family, friends and religious institutions.
  • Ensure that you’re ready for future emergencies by restocking your disaster supplies kits and updating your family disaster plan. Taking these positive actions can be comforting.

Your top concern after a disaster should be your own health and that of your family. To feel in control of your life and situation, limit your media exposure and keep your routines consistent. Also seek professional help for yourself and/or loved ones who are suffering emotionally and physically.

Disasters don’t happen often, but they do happen. Fortunately, there are people and organizations you can turn to for help.

Source: Resources For Living. Coping with disaster.